How to cope with temper tantrums with young children

We know how frustrating and difficult it is to deal with a child having a temper tantrum. The first thing to do is not to have a tantrum of your own. Children have temper tantrums for many reasons. 
Being told no is a bad word in their small world. How dare you deny them what they want? Telling a child they can have a dessert after they eat dinner. They want the sweet treat now, not later. The child will scream and holler at the top of his lungs because another child is playing with the toy they want. They don’t want to look for another toy.
Children from the age of two through six may not be able to verbalize what they are really trying to tell the adults. When children want our attention immediately and saying our name didn’t work, they know the perfect route is to disturb the peace by performing a jaw-dropping screaming temper tantrum. Now our focus is entirely on the child and their methods work beautifully every single time.

You have the main tool you need when these moments occur and it’s call patience.
* Keep your tone of voice calm and soothing.
* Pick up the child and hold them close to you and gently rub their backs and let them finish crying. The majority of the time the tantrum will stop and you can feel their body relax.
* When the child is in the age range of two thru four, try talking to them on their eye level. You appear less intimidating to the child.
* Take the child by the hand and tell them to come and take a walk with you so they can talk. I walked around the dining room table several times with my two year old grandson until he wanted to race me around the table. He was falling out laughing because he beat me to the entryway of the room. 
* Sit the child down beside you and give his hands busy work and engage him in general conversation. Ask him what he did today. He will see his day differently than you do.
* Don't interrupt them while they are speaking, unless you are trying to clarify what they are trying to tell you.

What adults should never do when the tantrums begin.
* Don’t scream, yell, holler, stomp your feet or talk over them to be heard. They will mimic you in a heartbeat with other children and adults.
* Be careful with the gestures of your hands and fingers and don’t wave your arms around in the air.
* Don’t call them names such as, silly, acting foolish or use the phrase, you’re too old to be acting like this.
Let the child make the decision to find a replacement for the toy someone else was playing with. 

You can win the child over and stop the temper tantrum by never backing down from your decision.

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